Ritual
Post‑loop debrief script
A 10‑minute, three‑question review that turns good dates into great patterns.
Couch with water glasses and notebook under string lights.
At a glance
- Duration
- 10 minutes
- Focus
- Learning + connection
- Updated
- 2025-11-11
- Debrief
- Aftercare
- Clarity
- Consent
When to use: Within 24 hours after a loop to lock in lessons and aftercare.
Why this ritual hits
A quick debrief turns a nice date into a repeatable pattern—10 minutes to capture the magic, fix friction, and keep consent crisp while feelings are still warm.
Setup
- Decompress first; drink water. Start this within 24 hours of the loop.
- Set a 10‑minute timer; agree to pause if anyone feels flooded.
Steps
- “What moment felt most us?”
- “Where did we need more info or consent?”
- “One tweak for next time?”
Pivot (2 minutes)
- One sentence each: “Best moment was ___.”
- One consent note: “Next time, I need ___ earlier.”
- Close with: “Gracias for tonight. Text me when you’re home.”
Close
- “Gracias por cuidarme cuando pedí pausa.”
- Schedule the next check‑in or pick a new loop while energy is warm.
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