When to use: Any time you want to keep boundaries and pacing explicit.

Why this skill hits

Consent is a rhythm, not a one‑time question. These micro‑check‑ins keep things clear without breaking the vibe.

Before

• “What’s a yes tonight? What’s a no?”
• “Scale check: 1–10 energy, 1–10 spice.”

During

• “More, less, or pause?”
• “Want to stay, pivot, or end here?”

After

• “One thing that felt good?”
• “Anything you want different next time?”

Pivot (low energy)

If words feel heavy, use a hand signal or a 1–10 text.